First-ever ‘The Bachelorette’ Trista Sutter speaks out after husband Ryan Sutter shares emotional posts

Trista Sutter is speaking out after her husband’s Instagram post about her went viral.

“Geez people,” Trista wrote on Instagram. “Can’t a girl have a nervous breakdown/trial separation/midlife crisis/death/divorce in peace around here,” she continued with a laughing emoji.

“In all seriousness, for those concerned, I’m safe and sound, happy and healthy, in love and grateful,” Trista promised her concerned fans, before calling out those who have been critical of her and Ryan. 

“For those who’d rather focus on being critical and searching way too hard for darkness, good luck with that. An opportunity for perspective and personal growth presented itself and with the unconditional support of my family and friends, I chose myself and betterment, knowing that my stay-at-home-mom job and my kids end-of-the-school-year needs were in the best, most capable hands.”

Trista then addressed her husband’s Instagram posts, calling Ryan “stoic” and someone “who usually chooses privacy over posting.”

“[Ryan] decided to share his love for me in messages that would find me in my travels. We look at Instagram like a digital diary. Most of the time, the world doesn’t pay too much attention.” 

As Trista continued, she wrote, “this time, he couldn’t say anything right and just about every news outlet picked up his ‘cryptic/confusing/attention-seeking/dramatic’ pictures and captions.”

Trista called Ryan’s post gave her “exactly what my Words of Affirmation love language needed to get me through some serious self doubt and fear…and that’s all that matters. He doesn’t owe anyone any explanation or require permission to post what he wants to post and share what he wants to share.”

The mom of two told her fans that she will share the rest of her story “in due time. For now, it’s back to our regularly scheduled programming – from a beach in Mexico! After all, nervous breakdowns and separations require much needed rest and relaxation!”

Back in January, Trista and Ryan Sutter, who found love after meeting on the first season of The Bachelorette, showed a united front at the first The Golden Bachelor wedding.

Now, Ryan’s latest Instagram posts are having fans worrying for Trista and their marriage.

The worry started when Ryan shared a black and white image of him and Trista with their two children. “I know you wish you were here for Mother’s Day. We wish you were too,” he wrote.

“But sometimes being a mom means letting go of their hands, granting independence and stimulating their courageous spirit,” Ryan continued. “Sometimes it’s necessary to exemplify the characteristics you preach – to do rather than say.” 

“Sometimes it takes being uncomfortable and scared to show them that it’s ok to be uncomfortable and scared. Sometimes you have to go away so they know you’ll come back, that your love is not limited by distance or difficulty or time. Sometimes you have to do what you sometimes have to do,” Ryan cryptically explained.

Ryan then reiterated how “proud” they are their “mama pajama for everything you do for us, near or far, Happy Mother’s Day!”

Trista also shared a Mother’s Day post. 

This was the last time Trista was active on social media. Ryan, not so much.

Yesterday, Ryan took to Instagram again, sharing yet another black and white photo. “I really wish I could talk to you,” he began in the caption.

“Ask you how you’re doing? How was your day. I’d really like to hear your voice – just for a minute. So many times I’ve called without much to say, not realizing how lucky I was or how much I’d miss the opportunity if it were gone,” he continued.

Ryan added that he wants “to know how you’re doing. I want to support and encourage and cheer you on. I want to be there for you. But I can’t. And that’s ok cause I know you need this time – time to discover yourself again.”

“So I’ll be here for you instead. I’ll be here when you get back. I’ll be here to listen to you, to smile with you, maybe cry with you – I’ll be here to love you… I’ll be here… forever.”

Ryan then shared an image of himself, some time later, clarifying that he writes “what is on my mind at the moment.”

But because he writes his “feelings without regard for how they will be interpreted,” he also said he has “absolutely no intent to deceive or mislead anyone – that is the farthest thing from my mind.” 

“I choose to share my thoughts on occasion because it helps me process them and, I hope, may help others navigate their own lives,” Ryan explained before saying Trista “is fine.”

“We are fine. We’re great. Trista is at a place in life where she is searching a bit. An opportunity presented itself that may help her on that quest,” Ryan explained further. 

“With her family’s support, she has taken it. Part of that process means that she is temporarily inaccessible to us. I miss her. We miss her.”

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